Although there are plenty of awesome, gentlemen around, sometimes we meet one that gives us the creeps. We may even think there is something wrong with us because he keeps telling us he’s a gentleman. I’ve encountered this situation more than a few times and I’m guessing you have to. So let me share some very simple things you can do to determine if it is safe to be around a man. By safe, I mean physically, mentally and emotionally.

Trust that gut feeling If a man tells you that he is a gentleman instead of proving it, he isn’t Enforce your personal boundaries to avoid being near anyone who gives you the creeps
True Story To Illustrate:

I was waiting with a girl friend in a long line for harbor cruise and the man behind us interrupted our conversation to comment on what we’d been talking about. She and I had been discussing the fact that I had to explain to guy why it is polite and appropriate to walk a woman to her car when she’s leaving a club late at night. The guy behind us (we’ll call him Brad), stated that he was a 50 year old gentleman and commented that gentlemen are seemingly rare these days.

As we listened to him, we both got the creeps and so did the other women overhearing the conversation. Brad mentioned several times that he was a gentleman and always followed it with an increasingly inappropriate compliment or comment about women. I decided he was trying to take the curse off of the comments by telling us he was a gentleman.

Finally, with Brad moving closer and closer to my friend, getting in her space, I told him that his comments were inappropriate and that he didn’t seem to be a gentleman at all. That seemed to make him even more enthusiastic about saying off-color comments like how good my friend’s jeans fit and how great she looked at 47. Interspersed were mentions of his wife, which I took as more attempts to remove the curse from his offensive monologue. He would also say, “I’m sorry but,” before he said something that made us uncomfortable.

As a Personal Safety Trainer, I have very solid personal boundaries and am not at all shy about enforcing them. I told him that the more he told us he was a gentleman and apologized the more he seemed like a creep. He started to speak again and I said, “You’re stepping over the line and you need to stop talking right now.” Finally, he shut up. Later on the boat, a couple of women who overheard the conversation complimented me on the way I handled the situation.

This story is a perfect example of the need to trust gut feelings, pay attention to someone’s behavior instead of their words if they don’t match and establish and enforce personal boundaries. Brad is a verbal and mental abuser. Part of what he did by stating that he was a gentleman and apologizing prior to rude comments can be considered crazy-making as in domestic violence situations. This is where the perpetrator makes him or herself out to be the normal one so that the victim thinks they are the one with the problem.

Knowing how to tell a creep from a gentleman is an important safety tip for women!



By: Kelly Rudolph

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1. Janushirsasana: Start by sitting on floor with the legs in front of you and straight. Now bend your left leg such that foot’s sole rests on inside thigh of the right leg. When done, bend forward with your arms raised and hold the right foot toe with both the hands. Bring your face as closer to it as you can and hold the position for a minute before returning to original position. Perform same for the other leg.

2. Shalabhasana: Start by lying flat on belly on the floor. Make sure that your arms are at the side. By balancing on the lower belly part, lift your arms, heads, legs and torso off the floor. Hold this position for one minute before gently returning to original position.

3. Dhanurasana: For this you have to lie flat on floor on belly. Now bend the knees and using your hands reach to reach back, get hold of the ankles. Now pull the legs up with the hands holding the ankles and lift the torso and head up. Stay in this position for one minute before gently returning to original position.

4. Halasana: For this lie on the floor on your back. Now try touching the tip of the floor that is above the head by lifting hips and legs and swinging them over to do so. Hold this position for one minute.

5. Shavasana: Lie on the floor on your back and close your eyes. Let your body feel weightless at the same time breathe slowly and deeply. Relax yourself by staying inthis position for one minute.

By: Jesse Miller

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Gone are the days when body building used to be only men’s forte. These days, women are equally competing with men in almost all the fields and body building is not an exception by any means. There are lots of women who take part these days and the number seems to be growing up year after year.

A lot of people seem to have the misconception that women cannot take part in heavy weight training methods and that their bodies are not suitable for such strenuous methods of training. You can safely say that none of it is true and there have been a lot of them in the past and there are a lot of them right now who could be quoted as the right examples to prove this misconception wrong.

Women also take part in heavy weight training schedules, work out like crazy each and every day, take care of the nutrition part, keep their body very fit, and also take part in a lot of amateur and professional competitions. In fact, some of the women’s competitions are as popular as men’s competitions. Also, sponsors these days have realized the potential for women’s competitions and are more than happy to sponsor such events. But it was not the case all the time as it was hard to find sponsors for body building competitions which had only women those days. But times have changed for good and you can see the difference these days which is very much visible.

May be the only thing in which women’s weight training differs from that of men’s is that the kind of weights they use to train might be a little less heavier when compared to men’s weight training equipment. This is because of the nature of women’s body but then even this has been proven wrong many times as a lot of women body builders have lifted weights equal to that of their male counterparts.

There are specialized trainers available for women’s body building and it’s important to make sure that the trainer understand the differences between a man’s and a woman’s body in order to make the weight training methods and other exercises tailor made for the woman who wishes to take part in competitions. In most cases, a female trainer for female body builders works the best as they are in the best position to advise women regarding a lot of health and other issues related to body building.

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