Women's Safety Information

Do you want to lose weight or maybe you would like to earn more money? Are you looking for a more fulfilling career or a more deep and loving relationship? Why is it that some people seem to achieve these things, while others simply move from one disaster to another? Are some people more lucky than others or is it all down to fate, is our destiny already planned out for us? I believe that we make our own luck in this world, that we are the masters of our own destiny.

Take A Look At Successful People

I read a lot of autobiographies written by high achievers and I urge you to do the same. One thing that you will soon realise from reading some of these amazing life stories, is that these remarkable people are quite similar to ourselves (particularly in the early days). They had doubts, fears, struggles and lots of failures, just like the rest of us. It can be easy to think that successful people have always had it easy and have just glided effortlessly through life on their way to the top, but this is rarely the case. However they did have certain qualities which enabled them succeed, the great news is that these qualities are not exclusive to them, we can all acquire them.

The Qualities Of A Winner

Successful people tend to view things quite differently, looking for opportunities and thinking about possibilities rather than looking for obstacles and thinking of excuses. They have a positive outlook and attitude, rather than a head crammed with negative thoughts. Lets take a look at some of the qualities possessed by successful people: -

Positive Self-Esteem

If someone pays you a compliment do you accept it with grace or rather awkwardly ridicule yourself to justify it or play it down? This is a good gauge of where your self-esteem is at and what sort of opinion you have of yourself. The way that you see yourself will manifest itself in your body language and actions. Poor self-esteem will lead to poor confidence, anxiety and fears which will only hold you back in life. Start recognising your unique abilities and talents, learn to celebrate your successes. A positive self-image will change the way you project yourself on to others, people will notice the difference.

Self-Discipline

Self-discipline should not be viewed as a punishment or something negative, but rather a positive quality that you should aspire to. Winners make sacrifices and invest time to get where they want to be. Rather than just focusing on their present circumstances, they look at the bigger picture, making goals and working consistently towards them. All successful people practice self-discipline, prioritising and valuing their time. Skipping an hour of television to exercise or study are good examples of self-discipline.

A Competitive Nature

Successful people like to win, and winning is a great habit to acquire. Challenging yourself to constantly do your best, will keep you focused and motivated to achieve your goals. Successful people tend to be very driven and have a determination to succeed, they have developed a “winners never quit” mentality.

If you want to lose weight or succeed at anything else in life for that matter, then you need to develop the psychology of a winner.

By: Chris Waddington

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Although there are plenty of awesome, gentlemen around, sometimes we meet one that gives us the creeps. We may even think there is something wrong with us because he keeps telling us he’s a gentleman. I’ve encountered this situation more than a few times and I’m guessing you have to. So let me share some very simple things you can do to determine if it is safe to be around a man. By safe, I mean physically, mentally and emotionally.

Trust that gut feeling If a man tells you that he is a gentleman instead of proving it, he isn’t Enforce your personal boundaries to avoid being near anyone who gives you the creeps
True Story To Illustrate:

I was waiting with a girl friend in a long line for harbor cruise and the man behind us interrupted our conversation to comment on what we’d been talking about. She and I had been discussing the fact that I had to explain to guy why it is polite and appropriate to walk a woman to her car when she’s leaving a club late at night. The guy behind us (we’ll call him Brad), stated that he was a 50 year old gentleman and commented that gentlemen are seemingly rare these days.

As we listened to him, we both got the creeps and so did the other women overhearing the conversation. Brad mentioned several times that he was a gentleman and always followed it with an increasingly inappropriate compliment or comment about women. I decided he was trying to take the curse off of the comments by telling us he was a gentleman.

Finally, with Brad moving closer and closer to my friend, getting in her space, I told him that his comments were inappropriate and that he didn’t seem to be a gentleman at all. That seemed to make him even more enthusiastic about saying off-color comments like how good my friend’s jeans fit and how great she looked at 47. Interspersed were mentions of his wife, which I took as more attempts to remove the curse from his offensive monologue. He would also say, “I’m sorry but,” before he said something that made us uncomfortable.

As a Personal Safety Trainer, I have very solid personal boundaries and am not at all shy about enforcing them. I told him that the more he told us he was a gentleman and apologized the more he seemed like a creep. He started to speak again and I said, “You’re stepping over the line and you need to stop talking right now.” Finally, he shut up. Later on the boat, a couple of women who overheard the conversation complimented me on the way I handled the situation.

This story is a perfect example of the need to trust gut feelings, pay attention to someone’s behavior instead of their words if they don’t match and establish and enforce personal boundaries. Brad is a verbal and mental abuser. Part of what he did by stating that he was a gentleman and apologizing prior to rude comments can be considered crazy-making as in domestic violence situations. This is where the perpetrator makes him or herself out to be the normal one so that the victim thinks they are the one with the problem.

Knowing how to tell a creep from a gentleman is an important safety tip for women!

By: Kelly Rudolph

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