Women's Safety Information

Women are familiar with intuition. We often just know things without any background support information. Sometimes we visualize an outcome, sometimes we hear what seems to be a silent answer to a question, sometimes we physically feel the correct thing to do and sometimes we just know without knowing how we know.

Intuition is also called gut feelings and the good news is that men, teens and kids can use gut feelings just as women do, to be safer and make good choices. Since women are the biggest cheerleaders for the safety of their loved ones, let’s make sure we are clear about how gut feelings work and how to use them to our advantage.

About Gut Feelings

Survival instincts we were born with Their job is to keep us alive They are personal to each individual No need to compare as they may be opposite of someone else’s gut feelings What may be safe for you may not be for your friend, co-worker and vice versa They are either good or bad (indifferent can be put in the good category) You have them about every person, place and situation in your life The key is to listen, feel, see and follow them when they are strongest Following them always is a great idea but rarely done
Examples of Gut Feelings

You meet someone for the first time and like them instantly You meet someone for the first time and dislike them without knowing why Someone tells you something and you have a feeling it is untrue You have a decision to make and although info points to one choice, you feel the other is best You know something is going to turn out a certain way without evidence to support it You get a creepy feeling about someone and know they are unsafe for you to be near
Acknowledging Your Gut Feelings

You may not have realized that you always have gut feelings about everything in your life. To prove this, think of someone you love and notice the first feeling or sense you have about that person. Next, think of someone who is dis-empowering or weakens you and notice what you feel, hear or sense. Although these feelings may come from already knowing these people, this exercise demonstrates how opposite gut feelings feel.

A vital part of living safely emotionally is knowing what and who strengthens you and what or who weakens you. Obviously, you cannot live your best life by immersing yourself in that which weakens you. Gut feelings are the perfect way to determine where you should be, what you should be doing and who you should allow in your life. My article on the #4 Personal Safety Secret for Women on Personal Boundaries is a must read if this interests you.

How Using Gut Feelings Creates Your Safer Future

By acknowledging gut feelings and realizing how often you have them, yours will become finely tuned. This is the absolute best way to live safer but you have to also follow them!

Example: You and your daughter are walking into the grocery store. A woman in the store prompts a bad gut feeling in you and you can tell that your daughter is uncomfortable as well. The woman asks you a question. Do you ignore your bad gut feeling so as not to offend her and answer her question against your better judgment? Remember, although she may not be an axe murdered, your gut feelings are survival instincts you were born with! Besides, if someone gives you the creeps, if anyone should be offended, it should be you.

So what should you do? Pretend you did not hear the question or excuse yourself and walk away quickly, pretend to get a phone call, etc. Your safety and that of your daughter are most important, period.

It could be that you answer the woman’s question and nothing bad happens. That’s great, but what about next time? What did you just demonstrate for your daughter to model later? Probably that it is important to be polite at any cost and that other people are more important than you are. These are subliminal messages, for the most part, but crucial to personal safety. Consider that this situation was a quiz, preparing you or your daughter for a bigger test in the future. Will you pass? Will she?

Why We Often Ignore Our Gut Feelings

The above example illustrates the very reason we so often put ourselves into dangerous situations emotionally and physically by ignoring our gut feelings. We, as women, are taught to always be polite and help others. That’s great but we make ourselves so vulnerable that we have no protection at all! We become so concerned that people won’t like us or that we will offend someone that we gloss over our survival instincts in favor of our delicate self-esteem.

By: Kelly Rudolph

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Googling oneself is fun-sometimes. Safety comes first. I found out a few fun things: someone thinks of my blog as “up and coming” and according to OCN.com (Orange County News) not only am I a blogger for the county, I’m also a young, pretty black woman.

But googling can also be shocking and scary I was appalled at finding a few of my articles running on some of “those sites”, better known as adult/porn venues. EEK! I immediately found someone at my service provider to guide me through getting it off!

There’s a new fright in town in connection with Google One I feel compelled to bring up in this essay. It seems the search engine has implemented a handy new feature that allows internet users to type in any phone number and it will provide the person’s name and address. It also allows you to click on a mapquest.com link and get directions to the address listed to that phone number. This is a very convenient tool when used for good, but as too many of us have learned-anything that can be used for the good of mankind, can also be used for bad!

I discovered this bit of information while reading a flier from the city offices where I work at me “day job”.

To be sure this wasn’t some rumor I tried it-this is the personal data I was served up with my home phone number:

MY NAME (of course)

MY HUSBAND’S AND SON’S FULL NAME

MY HOME ADDRESS

MY PERSONAL AND MY WORK E-MAIL ADDRESSES

MY WEBSITE

plus the fact that I am a freelance writer. With my work e-mail, anyone would also very quickly know where I go from 9-5, Monday-Friday. Next-I did click on the mapquest link, sure enough, I had directions to my home.

This is as scary as it is disconcerting.

Now you are probably thinking the same thing I did-who would have my phone number without my approval? Think about some of these situations:

How many times are you asked for your phone number by a salesperson? They probably know your name, but what about a co-worker you don’t see? Drop your pet off at the vet or make a personal appointment (doctor, lawyer, hair, nails, etc)they may see your phone number and be curious who goes with the cryptic information.

Fortunately, if you aren’t comfortable having your personal data made public, you can access http://www.google.com, type in your information, and click the “request to remove” feature.

Yes, I want someone to contact me for possible writing job offers, but at the same time I do not want them to know my home address and be able to come up to my front door. That’s on a strictly need to know basis.

Privacy and safety need to be considered first. Today we never truly know who or how many people have our very private details at their fingertips, but I know I’d sure love to pare it down to less than the entire free world.

By: Carine Nadel

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You, as a lady, are prey for some men or a victim applicant to criminals. As prey:

You are stalked. Watched and subdued. Made ********** to male authority Put in your place. Raped or Abused

It doesn’t matter if you are a stranger. What your job is. Words or screams will not alter your capturer’s intent. Your adversary has selected you alone on the fifth floor of a dimly lighted parking garage looking for where you parked the car after lunch. He’s between you and the garage elevator with a tire lug wrench in his left hand. Glittering eyes watching you from behind his ski mask. You pivot and run. The echoes of your clacking heels on the rough brown concrete reverberate from the walls. Your heart races away causing you to tremble.

There right in front of you a second large man with a ski mask jogs down the incline directly at you! “Where are you going Missy?” he calls out while slowing down from a jog.

“You can have whatever you want!” You plead looking from one man to the other.

“Just don’t hurt me.”

Lady, this is not a world filled with sugar plums and gingerbread men all striving to make you safe and happy. In this world bad things happen to good people, especially females. Five foot two a hundred and six shaking pounds that’s all you have against the threats around you. You heard about these assaults on late night news station.

Not you, never you! They always happen to other women in other garages in town.

Rule 1, you are responsible for your own safety, security and defense. Policemen are too heavy to carry in your purse. You are really on your own.

Rule 2, be aware of your surroundings and persons around you. Know where your car is!

Rule 3, do you need to be where you are at without a guard or security present? Drag a co-worker with you at least.

Rule 4, what’s your role in all of this? Play devil’s advocate about your security and defense. Change from pumps to sneakers in the office. Car keys in your hand not your handbag. Where you can’t find anything! Tasers come in lipstick containers, cellphone and of course as tasers. Perhaps a concealed collapsible baton or firearm with you as a last resort defense.

Rule 5, you must learn to use whatever you carry or bring with you for defense. A martial art class on a continuing basis might be just the exercise routine you need instead of stair climber exercise machine.

Rule 6, you have to commit to doing whatever is necessary to protect your body and life. You have the right to be deadly in your own defense. You’re not trying to put up a good fight! You must survive and the odds of that will be in doubt unless you commit to your surviving. You don’t care about your attacker!

Rule 7, fear is healthy. Find out what you fear and take steps to deal with it. Fear is not being just being afraid. Fear causes specific actions within and by your mind and body. Tunnel vision, loss of hearing, audible heartbeat, adrenalin flowing in your body, loss of fine motor skills, and judgment. Investigate what it is like.

Rule 8, bring your skill, practice, equipment, and aware mindset with you every day. The law doesn’t expect a five foot two inch lady to physically beat up a six foot two hundred ten pound angry man. Please be reasonable and bring an edged weapon or firearm to the fight!

Rule 9, disengage your mouth and remember the first eight rules. A conversation is not necessary with your opponent.

Rule 10, do above rules. No one but you cares for you as much as you!

Please return tomorrow for part two. How not to play victim ladies!

Be safe, live and prosper.



By: Ronald Newton

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