Women's Safety Information

We all know a person who tries to control others, forces their opinions on everyone and gets their way because people are afraid to stand up to them for fear of getting on their bad side. But do we realize how destructive this bullying behavior really is to those involved or what makes a bully in the first place? After all, we experience it in families, school, the workplace, neighborhoods and public places. Come with me as I dissect one real-life story (out of millions) to illustrate the impact bullying makes.

Real-Life Story – Bully In the Neighborhood

A nearby condominium association has always been a little strict but that’s what reminded homeowners to keep track of things so the neighborhood always looks and feels great. It was a peaceful, friendly place where neighbors knew each other by name and were always available to help one another.

Recently, a new board member took over the association by appointing herself to the position without a vote or anyone standing in her way. She walks the neighborhood day and night finding (or creating) violations to exhibit her power over others. Association meetings that used to be one hour are several hours long with all of the residents who have gotten reprimanded for ridiculous violations of vague guidelines scheduled to appear in front of the board.

There are so many absurd violation letters being handed out, the general feel of a recently friendly, warm and fuzzy neighborhood is rampant with negative discussions of the association and unreasonable violation notices. Numerous homeowner have gotten letters scolding them for something, requiring them to fit a 3-4 hour association meeting into their busy schedule to explain themselves as if they are children.

One violation was about neighbor’s Rottweiler barking as the president and her husband jogged by looking for more violations. Obviously, the bully doesn’t realize a watchdog’s job is to deliver a bark-alert about someone who is not normally in the area.

Several of the former association board members have resigned because of the new president feeling helpless, frustrated and fearful of her wrath.



Anatomy of a Bully: Attacker mindset

Low self-esteem Insecure Feels out of control of own life Chooses to control someone else (or everyone else in this case) to feel powerful again
This Bully’s Impact on a Once Warm and Fuzzy Neighborhood

Fear of being written up for Unnecessary stress when home is suppose to be a haven Frustration than no one is standing up to the bully A feeling of helplessness Invasion of privacy Anger Negative cloud over neighborhood Time away from life and family to address ridiculous claims at meetings Confusion as to how this person became a board member Disappointment in other board members, neighbors who won’t stand up to bully Memory trigger from past bullying experiences (we’ve all had them)

A bully is an attacker and bullying is attacking, in this case, mentally and emotionally. You may wonder why I call such a typical behavior “attacking.” That is because it is seriously negative, destructive, bad behavior and should be treated as such.

Remember that attackers are weak and usually back down if someone stands up to them who appears stronger mentally or emotionally. They are using their victims to get a power fix since they feel out of control of some part of their own life.

If we knew more about this new president’s life, I’m sure we would quickly see where she feels out of control which would explain but not justify why she attacks. There are plans to have an election for new board members!

Bullying can get you what you want, where you want to go and speed up your journey, but on the way back down, which happens eventually, you have to pass by the people you stepped on, on your way up.

By: Kelly Rudolph

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May it be for overall health improvement or for weight control or simply to maintain weight, most women tend to lean on aerobic exercises. Making any physical activity ranging from moderate to strenuous activities everyday would help keep the body in shape. The common forms of aerobic activities would include jogging, walking or brisk walking, swimming and cycling.

The benefits of exercise are known to everybody which is the reason why most people make time to do it as many times as possible. Over the years we know that aerobic activities are healthful ways to either lose weight or maintain it paired with good eating habits. Research show that aerobic exercise is good for working people as the exercise relaxes the tense muscles. It increases the production of endorphin in our body which is called a mood-enhancing hormone which is responsible for giving the feeling of euphoria after the exercise. Research also shows that endorphins improve the body’s insulin action which reserves or decreases insulin resistance.

As the society progresses, more and more women climb the corporate ladder and become successful. However, the price they have to pay is the lack of time to look after their health and maintain their bodies in shape. With this, jogging has become one of the most common and convenient way to exercise despite their busy schedule. Jogging women can do the exercise either before they go to work in the morning or after their work at night. Moreover, wherever they go, whether they are on a business trip or simply they are reassigned to another place, they are not leaving their exercise behind.

Know your jogging area. It is practical to note that women have to be aware of the area they are jogging in. Whether you are just at a neighborhood or you are traveling, it would be better to ask around Muggers and sexual assaulters are just one of the common dangers for jogging woman. Jogging woman have to understand that some things might happen, as they are women, while jogging. Thus, it would be helpful for them to note some safety tips while going jogging.

Always jog on the opposite side of the road. It is a given fact that music can relax the brain while jogging. Most women understand this and an mp3 player or an iPod has become their favorite jogging partner. The danger however is that they tend to volume up their music while going jogging. The tendency is for them not to hear the sound of the coming vehicle and then accidents happen.

These things may be very common but most of the time people forget the basics. Jogging woman could also look for a good jogging partner may be a friend or a dog. Learning self-defense trick will definitely keep you safe.

By: Wilfre Projil

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