Women’s Personal Safety Tips – The ABC’s of Repelling Attackers – Safety For Women & Those They Love
Aug 31
We all learned our ABC’s in school but we learned very little about safety and how to repel attackers. In fact, most of our safety training was about what not to do, which put us in greater danger. Who needs to know what not to do, what doesn’t work? Let’s stay positive and delete the words, “not” and “don’t” from our safety training so we can actually absorb the great information!
The ABC’s of Repelling Attackers
A = Attacker Mindset and Attitude
When you understand the attacker mindset you get the real picture of what attackers are up to, what they look for when selecting victims and how to be the opposite to repel instead of attract them. Your attitude toward attackers will change drastically as you gain understanding of their need for a power fix and how that works into your personal safety and that of your loved ones.
B = Body Language
Knowing that attackers look for weakness and that body language is the quickest way to show it illustrates your need to portray confidence even if you have to fake it. Something as simple as holding your head up or leaving your ringing cell phone to voice mail while walking in public can repel an attacker while those with their head down, distracted by a phone conversation can actually attract them.
C = Common Sense
Attackers exercise more common sense when attacking than many people do all day long. For example: attackers look to attack those who look weak or distracted because they know the power fix they desire will not come from losing a fight. Common sense tells us to pay attention to our survival instincts (gut feelings) yet we, more often than not, gloss over them with logic or ignore them in favor of politeness to avoid offending someone.
Your first ABC lesson taught you how to read. Your second
Most women are less than eager to get trained in self-defense but we all need some tips on simple ways to avoid becoming a victim and repel instead of attract attackers. Fortunately, sometimes the simplest things work the best.
Attackers prefer victims go quietly so no one notices what is going on and gets a description of them resulting in their arrest. Now that we know what they are looking for, we can be the opposite. Here are a couple things to note:
Nine out of ten people gasp and hold their breath when startled or scared so attackers have the advantage already Making noise startles the attacker (turnabout is fair play) and calls attention to your situation
When you gasp and hold your breath, the adrenaline that is automatically produced to deal with stress freezes you quicker and longer, and that’s when the majority of people get hurt. Adrenaline is produced to give you the fight or flight option. It helps you think clearly, run faster and strike harder under stress. In order for it to circulate and help instead of hinder you, you must be breathing. This is where making noise comes in…
Yelling is a great way to make noise and get your adrenaline circulating at the same time because you expel all the air in your lungs and automatically take another breath. Viola! Circulation, adrenaline, strength, speed, clear thought, a startled attacker and everyone looking your direction! Notice I said, “yelling” and not “screaming?” That is because screaming is weak and defensive and yelling is strong and offensive. The three best things to yell: Stop, 911, Back Off!
Other great ways to make noise:
Honking your horn Sounding your vehicle alarm Throwing or knocking over something loud (like metal)
Honking your horn is probably not what comes to mind first when you are startled unless you are startled by another driver, right? But just think about how much attention a honked horn gets…and that is the idea after all; even if it is about your personal safety and not about your car.
We know that most people **** the sound of vehicle alarms and rarely even consider that something is being broken into or stolen but again, think how many people are alerted by the sound. You can be sleeping at night with your vehicle in the garage or driveway and sound your alarm if an intruder breaks in.
You know the movies where someone is running from a bad guy through the kitchen of a restaurant, knocking over metal tables and shelves behind them? Not only does this make an instant obstacle course but it makes a heck of a lot of noise in the process. Maybe you are in a store and rake your arm down a shelf pulling products onto the floor to make noise and draw attention.
There is nothing safe or heroic about going quietly with an attacker in the hopes he or she will not hurt you. In fact, it can easily cost you your life. If someone wants to take you against your will, their intention is to hurt you.
Teach your kids this safety tip too. I can’t tell you how difficult it is to get some children to practice yelling in my Safe Kids Class! They have been programmed that yelling gets them in trouble and they need to know it can get them out of trouble as well.
Remember attackers want quiet, uninterrupted time with their victim and the longer you are with them, the more power they have. Make a lot of noise and be more trouble than you’re worth.
And ALWAYS trust your gut feelings to know what to do because sometimes submission is the best option. A good question to ask yourself is, “How is the best way to handle this situation?” Your brain will answer whatever you ask it. Make sure and ask good, empowering questions to get the same kind of answers.
By: Kelly Rudolph
About the Author:
Bonus Safety Tip: Some things we’re taught not to do, like being loud, are the very things attackers take advantage of. And I invite you to be even safer by visiting http://www.PersonalSafetyTrainer.com to grab your sample Safety Quick Tip and the option of receiving a free one each week + bonuses.
From Kelly Rudolph – “Your Personal Safety Trainer”
Fellow women, ask yourself, “What is in my wallet?” knowing that several crimes can take place from just one stolen wallet. Of course you probably have a drivers license and credit card(s), cash, etc. But do you actually know what you would lose if your wallet was stolen this minute?
Wallet Safety Tips:
Photocopy the front and back of every card in your wallet. Keep the copy in a very safe, yet accessible place. Optional: Hand deliver a copy to a close, trusted friend or family member who you would call in an emergency.
Hour One Is Critical
The first hour is crucial when your personal information has been lost or stolen. The emergency numbers on the backs of your credit cards, etc. are important for you to access quickly. Attackers are known for first filling up their gas tanks and then going on wild shopping sprees after stealing credit cards. This is common in the first hour and that is why you need those numbers handy.
The reason for the option of giving a copy to a trusted someone is that if you were to become missing, all of those account numbers can be tracked that much easier. Remember to hand deliver this info as email and text messages are not secure.
Identity Theft Prevention
It is always preferable to have a good identity theft prevention company on your side. There is plenty of information in your wallet to enable this crime to take hold of your good name and the life you have built. Many identity theft victims’ identity is never restored completely. Just imagine that someone has purchased a house or vehicle with your name and credit and you are the one left to prove that you are the real you!
I tell the story of my own identity being stolen in my TeleSeminar series. Fortunately, my situation was much less serious than many but scary all the same! Women are the promoters of safety in the workplace and family so please share this safety tip about copying the cards in your wallet with others. It will help all of us to be safer and less likely victim targets of thieves.
By: Kelly Rudolph
About the Author:
Bonus Safety Tip: Small purses are less likely targets for purse snatchers. And I invite you to be even safer by visiting http://www.PersonalSafetyTrainer.com
You will get a FREE Safety Quick Tip and 3 FREE bonuses to help you to be safer. There are audios and documents waiting there for you right now!
From Kelly Rudolph – “Your Personal Safety Trainer”
Women are often targeted by attackers because we make a few common mistakes about personal safety that present us as easy crime victim prospects.
We tend to be accommodating, to a fault We ignore our gut feelings Automatic trust is common with women
A few things to remember as we get into more detail about the common mistakes we make that put us in danger.
Attackers are insecure, have low self-esteem, feel out of control of their own lives and choose to control someone or something else in order to feel powerful again. Attackers look for those who appear weaker than they are (mentally, physically) to attack. Attacks may be verbal, mental, emotional or physical.
Too Accommodating
Women tend to be accommodating because we want people to like us and we enjoy being helpful. Although these traits are not bad they may allow us to be taken advantage of and pushed too far. This is where an attacker, known or unknown to you sees weakness and opportunity.
Solution: Establish and enforce personal boundaries. Know what distance you are willing to go and go no further. This will keep you from giving your power away to someone else.
Ignoring Gut Feelings
As women, we are generally much more in tune with our intuition or gut feelings than men are. However, we also tend to overlook, ignore and justify actions that are not in line with our gut feelings in order to be liked and to be nice.
Solution: Realize gut feelings are survival instincts you were born with. They will always lead you the right way. Follow them.
Automatic Trust
Because women have been raised to be nice and do good things for others, we often trust untrustworthy people automatically. We can all think back to a time we trusted someone and should not have.
Solution: Trust you gut feeling (intuition) without questioning or trying to justify it. It doesn’t have to be logical to be right. You will “feel” if someone is trustworthy or not. A good personal boundary to establish and enforce is, “If it feels wrong, avoid it.”
Although women may be targeted by attackers, these safety tips will help all of us avoid the personal safety mistakes that portray us as good victim prospects.
By: Kelly Rudolph
About the Author:
Bonus Safety Tip: Women are stronger and more capable of protecting themselves than most will ever believe. And I invite you to be even safer by visiting http://www.PersonalSafetyTrainer.com
You will get a FREE Safety Quick Tip and 3 FREE bonuses to help you to be safer. There are audios and documents waiting there for you right now!
From Kelly Rudolph – “Your Personal Safety Trainer”
Women’s Personal Safety Tips – The ABC’s of Repelling Attackers – Safety For Women & Those They Love
Jul 3
We all learned our ABC’s in school but we learned very little about safety and how to repel attackers. In fact, most of our safety training was about what not to do, which put us in greater danger. Who needs to know what not to do, what doesn’t work? Let’s stay positive and delete the words, “not” and “don’t” from our safety training so we can actually absorb the great information!
The ABC’s of Repelling Attackers
A = Attacker Mindset and Attitude
When you understand the attacker mindset you get the real picture of what attackers are up to, what they look for when selecting victims and how to be the opposite to repel instead of attract them. Your attitude toward attackers will change drastically as you gain understanding of their need for a power fix and how that works into your personal safety and that of your loved ones.
B = Body Language
Knowing that attackers look for weakness and that body language is the quickest way to show it illustrates your need to portray confidence even if you have to fake it. Something as simple as holding your head up or leaving your ringing cell phone to voice mail while walking in public can repel an attacker while those with their head down, distracted by a phone conversation can actually attract them.
C = Common Sense
Attackers exercise more common sense when attacking than many people do all day long. For example: attackers look to attack those who look weak or distracted because they know the power fix they desire will not come from losing a fight. Common sense tells us to pay attention to our survival instincts (gut feelings) yet we, more often than not, gloss over them with logic or ignore them in favor of politeness to avoid offending someone.
Your first ABC lesson taught you how to read. Your second
Women’s Personal Safety Secrets – Your Voice is Your #1 Weapon – Your #3 Personal Safety Secret
Jun 24
Women, children and the elderly are the most common victim prospects for attackers but everyone of every age is vulnerable. That is the bad news but there is plenty of good news too!
Something as simple as using your voice correctly and knowing the correct things to yell make your voice your #1 weapon.
It’s as simple as that.
If you are like me, you learned what to scream if you were in danger, right? This was good in theory but far too ineffective for reality.
Here’s the deal:
Screaming is weak and defensive Yelling is strong and offensive Most of the things we were taught to scream don’t work I’ll tell you what does work
Screaming vs. Yelling
When screaming is heard, it is thought to be either playing or too dangerous a situation to get involved in. Most people want to avoid “helping” for fear of getting hurt. (They are smart!)
When yelling is heard, it sounds like something is about to happen but hasn’t yet. It is strong and gets a completely different kind of attention than screaming does. Most people are interested in helping to prevent something.
What To Yell
Stop! Back Off! 911!
These are the most effective things to yell. We won’t go over the others we have heard all our lives because there is no reason to fill our minds further with things that don’t work.
How To Yell
Inhale to fill your lungs and tummy Deepen your voice by putting your tongue low in your mouth Yell until you are out of air, inhale, yell again Yell so that people blocks away can hear you
Benefits Of Yelling
Startles the attacker – catching the attacker off-guard puts you in control temporarily Calls attention to your situation – the last thing an attacker wants is everyone looking his or her way Makes you stronger – gets your adrenaline flowing in order to help you think clearly, strike harder and run faster
When To Yell
When you have a bad gut feeling about someone who is approaching (usually after they have disregarded your stern “Stop”) When someone grabs a hold of you without your permission When someone is taking you with them against your will As you are running to safety
You are now capable of scaring off most attackers before they approach, during an approach and in the third phase of attack – physical contact. Women, please share this information with kids, teens and men as everyone needs to know how to use their voice as their #1 weapon. As women, we are more likely to seek safety information than men so it is great when we can share it with loved ones and coworkers of both genders and all ages.
By: Kelly Rudolph
About the Author:
Bonus Safety Tip: Confident body language is a major deterrent to the majority of attackers. And I invite you to be even safer by visiting http://www.PersonalSafetyTrainer.com
You will get a FREE Safety Quick Tip and 3 FREE bonuses to help you to be safer. There are audios and documents waiting there for you right now!
From Kelly Rudolph – “Your Personal Safety Trainer”
Fellow women, listen up!
We know that everyone needs safety right? Women are often the ones who promote safety at work, at home and with friends. Teens and kids don’t always know they need safety measures and men feel safer than we usually do because of their gender. The truth is, attackers and victims are both male and female.
We can all be approximately 95% safer from creeps and criminals just by learning these Top 5 Women’s Personal Safety Secrets. How? Prevention is 90% awareness. So if you know the five secrets, you can’t help but be at least 5% safer!
The 3 main reasons you haven not heard “The Secrets” before:
The secrets are simple and we tend to make things much more complicated than they need to be – When everyone learns how simple personal safety is, there will be far fewer victims. Most people avoid the topic of personal safety due to fear of acknowledging their vulnerability to crime – Burying our heads in the sand and hoping the subject of crime disappears makes us more likely targets of attackers. The focus of most safety information is negative, random safety tips and ineffective self-defense techniques – Safety must be taught in the positive what to do manner!
Top 5 Women’s Personal Safety Secrets (to share with loved ones)
Understand the “attacker” mindset – The key to knowing where someone is going is to know where they are coming from. Confident body language – Speaking this language can save your life. Your voice is your #1 weapon – Knowing the power in your own voice and how to use it effectively is vital to preventing yourself from becoming a victim. Establish and enforce personal boundaries – Knowing what is acceptable and unacceptable to you before something happens allows you to protect your personal space. Trust your gut feelings above all else – The job of these survival instincts is to keep you alive.
As you can see, each of these five personal safety secrets is very important and may, individually, repel attackers. However, putting them all together and practicing them into habits can provide you with a tremendous amount of safety, peace of mind and empowerment in your daily life.
By: Kelly Rudolph
About the Author:
Bonus Tip: Telling someone what to do instead of what not to do gives you a much greater chance of obtaining the results you desire. And I invite you to be even safer by visiting http://www.PersonalSafetyTrainer.com
You will get a FREE Safety Quick Tip and 3 FREE bonuses to help you to be safer. There are audios and documents waiting there for you right now!
From Kelly Rudolph – “Your Personal Safety Trainer”
Theresa M. Troolines asked:
When it comes to your personal safety you need to make sure that you are prepared to ward off
attackers who wish to do you harm. It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman; it’s smart to have a plan in place if someone decides to harm you. For this reason it is advised to research different means of protection. Everyone is different and tends to have a different preference on what type of defense weapon they wish to use.
For those who don’t wish to carry around a gun but want a little more protection than pepper spray can offer, might want look into the possibility or purchasing a stun gun or a taser gun.
Although similar in many aspects, a stun gun and a taser gun are not the same thing. A stun gun is a weapon that allows you to disable your attacker by giving them a short non-lethal high voltage electric shock. When you use a stun gun on someone you are basically giving them a charge of electricity that won’t cause permanent damage, but will allow you a few minutes to get away. The charge confuses the attacker’s nervous system and causes movement and thought to be quite difficult for a short amount of time.
Most stun guns can be held in your hand and receive their power from a 9 volt battery. What’s nice is that the charge is strong enough to pass through heavy clothing, but there is no transference to you if the attacker should touch you while you deliver a charge. The one downfall to a stun gun is that you have to be within reach of your attacker in order to deliver the charge.
A taser gun uses much of the same technology as a standard stun gun. The attacker is stunned with
the same charge and reacts much the same way as with a stun gun. The main difference is that unlike a stun gun, you don’t have to be right next to the attacker to deliver the charge. The stun guns charge electrodes are within the unit itself. With the taser gun, they are connected by wires. This is so that when you pull the trigger on the taser gun it is propelled towards the attacker much like a gun. With the help of small barbs, the wires latch onto the attacker and sends the shock the same way as a stun gun.
The advantage of a taser gun is that you don’t have to be right next to the attacker, you can be within a 15 foot distance to shoot your attacker. Another advantage the taser has over the stun gun is that the taser also functions as a contact stun gun if you do not wish to deploy the ‘darts’
When it comes to your personal safety you need to make sure that you are prepared to ward off
attackers who wish to do you harm. It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman; it’s smart to have a plan in place if someone decides to harm you. For this reason it is advised to research different means of protection. Everyone is different and tends to have a different preference on what type of defense weapon they wish to use.
For those who don’t wish to carry around a gun but want a little more protection than pepper spray can offer, might want look into the possibility or purchasing a stun gun or a taser gun.
Although similar in many aspects, a stun gun and a taser gun are not the same thing. A stun gun is a weapon that allows you to disable your attacker by giving them a short non-lethal high voltage electric shock. When you use a stun gun on someone you are basically giving them a charge of electricity that won’t cause permanent damage, but will allow you a few minutes to get away. The charge confuses the attacker’s nervous system and causes movement and thought to be quite difficult for a short amount of time.
Most stun guns can be held in your hand and receive their power from a 9 volt battery. What’s nice is that the charge is strong enough to pass through heavy clothing, but there is no transference to you if the attacker should touch you while you deliver a charge. The one downfall to a stun gun is that you have to be within reach of your attacker in order to deliver the charge.
A taser gun uses much of the same technology as a standard stun gun. The attacker is stunned with
the same charge and reacts much the same way as with a stun gun. The main difference is that unlike a stun gun, you don’t have to be right next to the attacker to deliver the charge. The stun guns charge electrodes are within the unit itself. With the taser gun, they are connected by wires. This is so that when you pull the trigger on the taser gun it is propelled towards the attacker much like a gun. With the help of small barbs, the wires latch onto the attacker and sends the shock the same way as a stun gun.
The advantage of a taser gun is that you don’t have to be right next to the attacker, you can be within a 15 foot distance to shoot your attacker. Another advantage the taser has over the stun gun is that the taser also functions as a contact stun gun if you do not wish to deploy the ‘darts’
Steve Lane asked:
Stun guns have been around for decades. They have given people peace of mind that they have a way to defend themselves if there was ever a need for it. Being approached by a stranger or having your home invaded leaves a person feeling vulnerable and violated. Having the means to defend yourself is huge. The popularity of these devices is on the rise. Part of the reason for their popularity is the new styles available that make carrying a stun gun a fashionable thing to do.
Stun gun manufacturers are changing their marketing efforts to include women. This is not a bad idea since it is women who are the most likely to purchase and use a unit for personal security. Women may now buy a product that provides self-defense in style.
Modern Choices for Stun Guns
Women no longer need to lug around a heavy piece of black equipment for protection. The new style of stun guns makes it easier than ever to carry a self-defense device without being detected. These devices are being made into cell phones, batons, pens, flashlights and rings. These modern, trendy versions are slim, sleek, lightweight and stylish. They are also incredibly deceptive. No one needs to know you are carrying a self-protection device.
The modern stun guns that are designed for women don’t have to look like guns to do their intended job. Despite the fashionable look and various forms the new line of stun guns take on, they still get the job done and send attackers to their knees. They are available in a variety of shapes and even come in pink, purple, silver and metallic blue.
One of the latest gadgets to hit the market is a stun gun that has been designed to look like a tampon. The Pink Stringer delivers personal protection and be carried in their purses without drawing any attention to it. That’s half the battle since you don’t want your attacker to know you are able to protect yourself and get the upper hand.
Does Size Matter?
According to the manufacturers of the smaller and unique versions of the product, size does not matter. It isn’t necessary for women to carry around a huge device to protect themselves from predators. Stun guns of many sizes and shapes are still effective at providing personal safety.
Currently manufactures are boasting about stun guns that resemble pens, cell phones and pagers that are said to be the smallest units on the market. As long as the stun gun gets the same amount of shock to the person on the receiving end, it really doesn’t matter what it looks like.
Using Style and Fashion as a Marketing Tool for Stun Guns
Changing the marketing methods of stun guns to appeal to women shoppers was a great idea on the part of manufacturers. Women may be intimidated by traditional looking self-defense products. Changing the size and look of stun guns makes it possible for women to feel more comfortable buying and using them. Best of all, it will encourage more women to carry a stun gun for personal security. An increase of people using stun guns appropriately to defend themselves will have a positive effect and actually save lives.
Stun guns have been around for decades. They have given people peace of mind that they have a way to defend themselves if there was ever a need for it. Being approached by a stranger or having your home invaded leaves a person feeling vulnerable and violated. Having the means to defend yourself is huge. The popularity of these devices is on the rise. Part of the reason for their popularity is the new styles available that make carrying a stun gun a fashionable thing to do.
Stun gun manufacturers are changing their marketing efforts to include women. This is not a bad idea since it is women who are the most likely to purchase and use a unit for personal security. Women may now buy a product that provides self-defense in style.
Modern Choices for Stun Guns
Women no longer need to lug around a heavy piece of black equipment for protection. The new style of stun guns makes it easier than ever to carry a self-defense device without being detected. These devices are being made into cell phones, batons, pens, flashlights and rings. These modern, trendy versions are slim, sleek, lightweight and stylish. They are also incredibly deceptive. No one needs to know you are carrying a self-protection device.
The modern stun guns that are designed for women don’t have to look like guns to do their intended job. Despite the fashionable look and various forms the new line of stun guns take on, they still get the job done and send attackers to their knees. They are available in a variety of shapes and even come in pink, purple, silver and metallic blue.
One of the latest gadgets to hit the market is a stun gun that has been designed to look like a tampon. The Pink Stringer delivers personal protection and be carried in their purses without drawing any attention to it. That’s half the battle since you don’t want your attacker to know you are able to protect yourself and get the upper hand.
Does Size Matter?
According to the manufacturers of the smaller and unique versions of the product, size does not matter. It isn’t necessary for women to carry around a huge device to protect themselves from predators. Stun guns of many sizes and shapes are still effective at providing personal safety.
Currently manufactures are boasting about stun guns that resemble pens, cell phones and pagers that are said to be the smallest units on the market. As long as the stun gun gets the same amount of shock to the person on the receiving end, it really doesn’t matter what it looks like.
Using Style and Fashion as a Marketing Tool for Stun Guns
Changing the marketing methods of stun guns to appeal to women shoppers was a great idea on the part of manufacturers. Women may be intimidated by traditional looking self-defense products. Changing the size and look of stun guns makes it possible for women to feel more comfortable buying and using them. Best of all, it will encourage more women to carry a stun gun for personal security. An increase of people using stun guns appropriately to defend themselves will have a positive effect and actually save lives.
Women’s self defense issues are constantly in the news and a ‘hot’ topic for conversations. In fact, the number one concern from women, especially single women in the dating world, is ****.
It seems that everyone from police officers to karate instructors has his or her own philosophy and theories about the how’s and why’s of self defense for women and girls.
The truth is though, that many of the same techniques and tactics taught to men for self-protection simply will not work for a woman. Why?…
… because attacks perpetrated on women have, at their foundation, certain inherent problems, issues, and conditions that are often very different for men who find themselves in defensive situations. Women have to deal with things that, quite frankly, men don’t.
If this is something you’re really concerned about, you owe it to yourself to do some serious research to get more information about real-world self-defense for women designed around issues specifically related to womens self-defense.
Now, before some of you start rolling your eyes or nodding your head in agreement, this is not a women’s lib issue or anything of the sort. It’s simply the way it is.
What kind of things make self-defense for women different? I’m glad you asked.
Well, for starters, physiologically speaking, there is a 7-to-3 strength ratio between male and female bodies. That means that if you were to stand a man and a woman, having the same height, weight, and build, side-by-side, and all things considered (health, fitness, etc.)…
… the man would still be two-and-a-half times stronger than the woman!
This is not theory or one person’s belief over those of others. It’s scientific fact.
Next, women are more likely to be slapped, grabbed and pinned than punched or kicked. For men, it’s just the opposite. The fact is that, most of us have been conditioned since childhood to act, play, and, yes, fight with each gender very differently. And attackers are no different.
The good news is that more and more women are being drawn to the life-enhancing benefits of the martial arts and basic self-defense programs for increasing their level of self-confidence and overall feelings of safety and security. The not-so-good news is that…
… there is a shortage of:
* Martial arts instructors who understand scientific self-defense, ‘and’ have the necessary life experience to be able to teach from a perspective that shares that experience.
After all…
… if an instructor has never been in a real-world self defense situation themselves, it will make it nearly impossible for them to teach real self defense to anyone – let alone self defense for women. It’s kind of like going to a priest of counselor for marriage counselling who has never been married themselves. They both have information passed on by others but, neither has anyway of expressing that information based on real-word knowledge.
However, there is an over-abundance of…
…so-called self-defense experts who are of the tough-guy, fighter type or the “This is Reality – Deal With it! macho-type.
These people, by their very nature are the “slugger-types” who rely and depend on speed, strength and size to win. Since self defense situations usually involve a bigger, faster, stronger attacker victimizing a smaller, less-prepared target – and, that’sexactly what most women are up against when they’re attacked…
… these instructors, and their “strike-first-and-crush-them-where-they-stand mentalities, are far from being suited, knowledgeable, or able to deliver the necessary lessons needed by women to effectively protect themselves from an assailant intent on dominating them physically.
Other Considerations for Girls and Womens Self Defense
The following is a partial list of some of the other major differences between self defense for women and men. The important thing to remember is that…
… a self-defense situation is very different from a sport or competition-based contest where the individuals are willing participants. They are evenly matched to insure for a “fair fight.” I have been in contests and I have been attacked and I can tell you without a moment’s doubt that…
… there is nothing “fair” or “even” about a real attack. NOTHING! And, once your personal space is invaded by another human being wanting to beat you to your core, you will know what I mean and never, ever, buy into the crap that most of these so-called experts are shovelling.
With that said, please know that I have not said that every self-defense or martial arts instructor is full of it. Just that you must know what you need and make sure that that’s what you’re getting. Remember – you’re not buying a couch that you can take back. A mistake in this area could literally cost you your life!
Here are some other differences between men’s and women’s training that a good program must address:
* Cultural Influences – girls have been taught from a very early age that fighting was not “lady-like.”
Oh my god! What would people think!
* Situational Self-Defense – **** and sexual assault are two of the biggest differences between the genders when it comes to suriviving an attack.
The fact that men are usually dealing with the more obvious situations (muggings and competitive (“oh-yeah! let’s go!”-type fighting), while women, and more and more young girls, are required to deal with subtle tactics like date-rape or being ambushed by a group.
Add to this the strength differential discussed earlier, and you have a very different situation, requiring very different self-protection tactics.
* Incorrect Information – I believe that the majority of teachers and instructors mean well. They aren’t out to con you. It’s just that they have no real experience to go on so they do what everyone does when they don’t know any better…
… they make assumptions that seem logical and rational within their own frame of reference.
The problem is that we’re talking about self-protection here…
… self defense for women…
… girls self-defense. Not…
… vegetable soup. Where, if you make a mistake, you can just dump the pot and start over.
As I said earlier, a mistake in a women’s self-defense situation, in any situation requiring defense against an attack from an assailant bent on damaging you, could be very, very costly indeed.
By: Jeffrey Miller
About the Author:
It seems that everyone from police officers to karate instructors has his or her own philosophy and theories about the how’s and why’s of self defense for women and girls.
The truth is though, that many of the same techniques and tactics taught to men for self-protection simply will not work for a woman. Why?…
… because attacks perpetrated on women have, at their foundation, certain inherent problems, issues, and conditions that are often very different for men who find themselves in defensive situations. Women have to deal with things that, quite frankly, men don’t.
If this is something you’re really concerned about, you owe it to yourself to do some serious research to get more information about real-world self-defense for women designed around issues specifically related to womens self-defense.
Now, before some of you start rolling your eyes or nodding your head in agreement, this is not a women’s lib issue or anything of the sort. It’s simply the way it is.
What kind of things make self-defense for women different? I’m glad you asked.
Well, for starters, physiologically speaking, there is a 7-to-3 strength ratio between male and female bodies. That means that if you were to stand a man and a woman, having the same height, weight, and build, side-by-side, and all things considered (health, fitness, etc.)…
… the man would still be two-and-a-half times stronger than the woman!
This is not theory or one person’s belief over those of others. It’s scientific fact.
Next, women are more likely to be slapped, grabbed and pinned than punched or kicked. For men, it’s just the opposite. The fact is that, most of us have been conditioned since childhood to act, play, and, yes, fight with each gender very differently. And attackers are no different.
The good news is that more and more women are being drawn to the life-enhancing benefits of the martial arts and basic self-defense programs for increasing their level of self-confidence and overall feelings of safety and security. The not-so-good news is that…
… there is a shortage of:
* Martial arts instructors who understand scientific self-defense, ‘and’ have the necessary life experience to be able to teach from a perspective that shares that experience.
After all…
… if an instructor has never been in a real-world self defense situation themselves, it will make it nearly impossible for them to teach real self defense to anyone – let alone self defense for women. It’s kind of like going to a priest of counselor for marriage counselling who has never been married themselves. They both have information passed on by others but, neither has anyway of expressing that information based on real-word knowledge.
However, there is an over-abundance of…
…so-called self-defense experts who are of the tough-guy, fighter type or the “This is Reality – Deal With it! macho-type.
These people, by their very nature are the “slugger-types” who rely and depend on speed, strength and size to win. Since self defense situations usually involve a bigger, faster, stronger attacker victimizing a smaller, less-prepared target – and, that’sexactly what most women are up against when they’re attacked…
… these instructors, and their “strike-first-and-crush-them-where-they-stand mentalities, are far from being suited, knowledgeable, or able to deliver the necessary lessons needed by women to effectively protect themselves from an assailant intent on dominating them physically.
Other Considerations for Girls and Womens Self Defense
The following is a partial list of some of the other major differences between self defense for women and men. The important thing to remember is that…
… a self-defense situation is very different from a sport or competition-based contest where the individuals are willing participants. They are evenly matched to insure for a “fair fight.” I have been in contests and I have been attacked and I can tell you without a moment’s doubt that…
… there is nothing “fair” or “even” about a real attack. NOTHING! And, once your personal space is invaded by another human being wanting to beat you to your core, you will know what I mean and never, ever, buy into the crap that most of these so-called experts are shovelling.
With that said, please know that I have not said that every self-defense or martial arts instructor is full of it. Just that you must know what you need and make sure that that’s what you’re getting. Remember – you’re not buying a couch that you can take back. A mistake in this area could literally cost you your life!
Here are some other differences between men’s and women’s training that a good program must address:
* Cultural Influences – girls have been taught from a very early age that fighting was not “lady-like.”
Oh my god! What would people think!
* Situational Self-Defense – **** and sexual assault are two of the biggest differences between the genders when it comes to suriviving an attack.
The fact that men are usually dealing with the more obvious situations (muggings and competitive (“oh-yeah! let’s go!”-type fighting), while women, and more and more young girls, are required to deal with subtle tactics like date-rape or being ambushed by a group.
Add to this the strength differential discussed earlier, and you have a very different situation, requiring very different self-protection tactics.
* Incorrect Information – I believe that the majority of teachers and instructors mean well. They aren’t out to con you. It’s just that they have no real experience to go on so they do what everyone does when they don’t know any better…
… they make assumptions that seem logical and rational within their own frame of reference.
The problem is that we’re talking about self-protection here…
… self defense for women…
… girls self-defense. Not…
… vegetable soup. Where, if you make a mistake, you can just dump the pot and start over.
As I said earlier, a mistake in a women’s self-defense situation, in any situation requiring defense against an attack from an assailant bent on damaging you, could be very, very costly indeed.
By: Jeffrey Miller
About the Author:
Jeffrey Miller is the founder and master instructor of Warrior Concepts International. He is the author of “The Karate-Myth” and the Danger Prevention Tactics video, among others. For more info, subscribe to his ezine here.