Women's Safety Information

Fellow women, listen up!

We know that everyone needs safety right? Women are often the ones who promote safety at work, at home and with friends. Teens and kids don’t always know they need safety measures and men feel safer than we usually do because of their gender. The truth is, attackers and victims are both male and female.

We can all be approximately 95% safer from creeps and criminals just by learning these Top 5 Women’s Personal Safety Secrets. How? Prevention is 90% awareness. So if you know the five secrets, you can’t help but be at least 5% safer!

The 3 main reasons you haven not heard “The Secrets” before:

The secrets are simple and we tend to make things much more complicated than they need to be – When everyone learns how simple personal safety is, there will be far fewer victims. Most people avoid the topic of personal safety due to fear of acknowledging their vulnerability to crime – Burying our heads in the sand and hoping the subject of crime disappears makes us more likely targets of attackers. The focus of most safety information is negative, random safety tips and ineffective self-defense techniques – Safety must be taught in the positive what to do manner!
Top 5 Women’s Personal Safety Secrets (to share with loved ones)

Understand the “attacker” mindset – The key to knowing where someone is going is to know where they are coming from. Confident body language – Speaking this language can save your life. Your voice is your #1 weapon – Knowing the power in your own voice and how to use it effectively is vital to preventing yourself from becoming a victim. Establish and enforce personal boundaries – Knowing what is acceptable and unacceptable to you before something happens allows you to protect your personal space. Trust your gut feelings above all else – The job of these survival instincts is to keep you alive.

As you can see, each of these five personal safety secrets is very important and may, individually, repel attackers. However, putting them all together and practicing them into habits can provide you with a tremendous amount of safety, peace of mind and empowerment in your daily life.

By: Kelly Rudolph

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As Women, We Like

As women, we like to help others. We like to be liked. We like to be successful. We like to feel empowered and that we make a difference in the world. We are perfectly capable of raising a family, having a career and making our own decisions.

However, few of us realize how much our decisions are influenced by our self-esteem at the time a decision is made. If you are having an off day, chances are good that you will make a different choice that you would on a day when you feel awesome about yourself.

For example: I thought about relationship mistakes I have made in the past. After tracing them back to their origin, they all resulted from my low self-esteem at the time. The good relationship (and I am referring to friends, co-workers and family as well as dates) decisions I have made tend to stem from feeling confident.

Let Me Go One Step Further

One of my relationship decisions resulted in a date rape. If you have read my article series on “Women’s Personal Safety Secrets,” you already know I state the fact that no one deserves to be attacked and that the blame always lies with the attacker. But when I asked myself why I went out with this person even though I had a bad gut feeling, I realized it was because I wasn’t feeling too terribly great about myself. I was just thankful that someone had asked me out. The bad gut feelings multiplied and intensified during the evening. But I stayed because “I wanted someone to like me.” Since I wasn’t so thrilled with myself, that would mean I was worthwhile.

That situation was one of several which led me to the work I currently enjoy as a personal safety trainer, speaker, author and self-defense instructor. In the long run, the lesson that was learned (and there is one in every situation) was that even something bad can send you in a whole new direction to make a difference in the world. However, it took healthy self-esteem to make the choice to create something good from it instead of continuing to live as a victim.

Tracing my good relationship decisions back showed me that I have chosen the right friends, let go of the wrong friends and picked my battles wisely. These “confident day” decisions have had a dramatically different affect on my life than those made on an “off day.”

YOU are Most Important

Although you probably have a bazillion things on your “To Do” list, I ask you to pay close attention to yourself prior to making decisions. It only takes a second. If you are not feeling fantastic about yourself, think about the decision you would make if you were and then decide. It is similar to establishing and enforcing personal boundaries with a clear head (“Women’s Personal Safety Secret #4″).

Self-Esteem

You know that self-esteem is an inside job and as much as we’d love to think as much of ourselves as our loved ones think of us, we rarely do. When we feel vulnerable, the slightest off-hand comment can dim our light. When we feel strong, it takes a lot to rock us. Sometimes, a single day can feel like a ride on the self-esteem roller coaster. It may not seem fair but realize you are not alone.

Women have greater intuitive sensitivity, which is great in most situations and detrimental in others. We tend to take things more personally than men do and we attempt to read between the lines when there is often nothing there. This is why our self-esteem can be delicate and why we must take extra good care of ourselves in order to be there for our loved ones. This is how self-esteem plays such a huge role in personal safety for women.

By: Kelly Rudolph

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Whether we are traveling to visit family members, purchasing gifts we can’t afford, attending parties out of obligation or wishing we had loved ones to enjoy the holidays with; holidays represent an emotionally charged time of year for everyone. We know that the traditional view of family members enjoying one another isn’t always the way it happens. In fact, the majority of family get togethers are emotional and stressful so realize, if yours is like that, you’re not alone.

Since attacks may be verbal, mental, emotional or physical, we all need some Holiday Safety Secrets to make this time of year safer all around, don’t you agree?

Holiday Safety Secret – Verbal

Realize that a comment made to you or about you is always about the person making it, not about you. It is either a positive comment coming from a place of admiration or a negative comment coming from a place of insecurity.

Knowing this helps you to take a deep breath and either say, “Thank you,” to a nice comment or say nothing to a ban one, considering the source.

Holiday Safety Secret – Mental

People who know us also know “which buttons to push” if they want to mentally attack. For example: a coworker looking up and down you and then snickering will likely send any one of us into the ladies room to check our makeup, hair and outfit. Realize (you’ll see a trend here) a mental attack is all about the attacker who is trying to control the “victim” by inspiring uncertainty because he or she feels out of control of their own life at the moment of attack.

Holiday Safety Secret – Emotional

Make a list of who you feel good around and who you feel drained by. Invest time only with those you feel good around; that is your gut feeling telling you who is safe and who isn’t (emotionally, mentally and or physically). If you must work with people you would not ordinarily choose to spend time with, realize that you have a choice to either absorb their negative energy or “put up your mirrors.” Putting up mirrors consists of visualizing yourself with mirrors around you facing out. When someone sends negative energy your way, the mirrors reflect it back to them 10 fold and you are safe emotionally. I learned this from an Indian Medicine Man 25 years ago and have used it successfully ever since.

Holiday Safety Secrets – Physical (much more info about each of these available)

Remember that thieves and other types of attackers love the holidays because we are all distracted and make for easy targets. Stay OFF your phone when walking in a parking lot and have it in or on your clothing instead of in your purse. If a thief wants your purse give it up quickly and count your blessing that all you had was a thief. Use confident body language (head high, shoulders back, looking side to side) to repel attackers. Carry a very small pouch inside your clothes with ID, cash or one credit card. Cover the key pad when entering your PIN at checkout. Check in and under your vehicle before entering and lock the door before it is even closed. Remember that the cover of darkness allows many more attacks this time of year.
Wrap Up Holidays can be fun and happy when you protect your personal space and emotions. Remember that safety often has to do with swallowing your pride. Let the snide comment go without a fight and let your purse go to avoid escalating an attack. It will never be fair that other take from us but we can attract safety instead of attackers with these simple tips.

By: Kelly Rudolph

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Personal safety is a concern that the majority of women share, regardless of job, marital or socio-economic status. There are several options for women who wish to be responsible for her own safety. Self-defense courses are a good long term solution for any woman wishing to learn to protect herself, but many women don’t have the time or money to take classes. A firearm is another option for self-defense, but this also requires education and skill to be safe in carrying it, and many states do not allow for concealed carry. Additionally, guns can be deadly, and many women are not willing to take a life, even when her own could be in danger.

A personal stun gun is a safety device that is affordable, efficient and easy to use. It is also not deadly, so therefore a woman carrying a stun gun won’t be hesitant to use it. One of the biggest threats to any armed amateur is having her gun taken away and used on her. A stun gun can look like any item a woman might carry, so an attacker will be less likely to seize it before she can use it.

A stun gun is a devise that administers an electrical shock to the person or animal on which it is turned. They come in a variety of sizes, shapes and strengths. Some look like a standard cell phone, some models resemble a small flashlight and some are shaped like an actual firearm and are carried in a holster. The strength of the stun generally varies from 30,000 volts to over a million volts, from a low grade threat stopper to a totally debilitating shock.

Stun guns provide a non-lethal but debilitating shock to an attacker, whether human or animal. For the woman walking to her car at night or in a deserted area, using a stun gun on a would-be mugger or rapist can fell an attacker, providing vital escape time.

Stun guns are not just for nighttime safety and security. Parking lot attacks and car-jackings at malls and department stores are becoming common stories on the evening news, even in smaller areas. Carrying such a device will help assure a woman’s safety wherever she is vulnerable.

Even in the relative comfort of her own neighborhood, a woman still must be vigilant against potential threats. A stun gun can provide protection against a dog that jumps his fence and attacks. It can also aid in the self-defense of a woman facing a purse-snatcher. This non-lethal defense allows escape and time to call the appropriate authority for help.

Stun guns are legal in 42 states in the United States; they are Not Legal for self-protection in Hawaii, Illinois, Massachusetts, Michigan, New Jersey, New York, Rhode Island and Wisconsin.

By: Jessie Diamond

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myosource.com showme-selfdefense.com SelfDefense for beginners. Grace is a College student and not a mean bone in her body. She wanted to know what to do in case of attack. Here are a few simple moves and suggestions to fight off an attacker, scare them startle them and give yourself a chance to get away. Saving Grace

As more and more instances of campus violence are reported on the news, college students and their parents are beginning to be concerned about campus safety, and with good reason. Unfortunately, colleges and universities are no longer just a haven for those pursuing an education. They are quickly becoming a haven for criminals as well. There are several products on the market today that college students can use, however, to protect themselves from dangerous individuals and make their campus homes as safe as possible. Whether you are a student yourself or are the parent of a student, take some time to consider the different college safety products on the market today, and what they can do to protect you or those you love.

One popular safety product used by many college students is a dual function door brace. A dual function door brace will enhance the current lock on your dorm or apartment door. Once you and your roommates are in for the night, you can place the dual function door brace against the door, and it will provide added protection against a potential intruder. These products are collapsible, so you can easily take them with you when you travel. A dual function door brace can be used on both hinged and sliding doors. They are made out of strong, 20-guage steel to add protection. When you are ready to go out in the morning, simply remove the brace, store it, and open the door.

Another essential college safety product that all college students, particularly women, should have is pepper spray. Pepper spray is a product that you carry with you in your purse, pocket, or on your key ring. If you are attacked, all you have to do is spray the pepper spray into the eyes of your attacker. It will cause the attacker’s eyes to slam shut and begin watering profusely. Pepper spray is amazingly irritating, and it typically causes the attacker to become disoriented long enough for you to escape.

If you do not want to carry a large pepper spray container with you to and from school, consider buying a lipstick pepper spray container. These containers look just like a lipstick tube, but they actually contain pepper spray. You can put them in your purse and have them on hand any time you need some extra protection. If you are afraid that you will forget to carry it or will not be able to reach it during an attack, consider purchasing a pepper spray ring, which you can always wear to be safe in the event of an attack.

If you are concerned that someone near you, like a roommate, is taking your things or putting you in a dangerous situation, consider investing in wireless cameras. Wireless cameras are tiny and can be placed inside everyday objects. You have likely seen these cameras in teddy bears that are used to watch nannies while parents are at work. You can use these wireless cameras to keep tabs on the people who live in your room or apartment. They connect to your computer so you can review the video at your convenience. If you live in an apartment, you can also install outdoor wireless cameras near your front door. This will allow you to see anyone who wants to enter your home before you let them in. you and your roommates can screen the people who want to visit and avoid any dangerous situations.

Remember, whenever you leave your dorm or apartment, always lock the doors. Do not carry large quantities of money in your wallet. If you must carry a lot of cash, put it in a concealed pocket. Always look up when walking on campus, so if you are attacked, you will know what your attacker looks like. These tips will help keep you as safe as possible while you are pursuing your degree.

Buy your Dual Function Door Brace, or one of our College Safety Starter Packs to keep you safe.

For when you need to walk around campus don’t forget your Pepper Spray.

By: Ken Potter

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“Speaking this language can save your life.”

As women, we are extra tuned in to what people are saying even when they are not speaking words. This second Women’s Personal Safety Secret should, therefore, make a lot of sense. Making the tips into habit will take a little more work but will be well worth it!

We know, from Personal Safety Secret #1, that the attacker mindset includes low self-esteem, feeling insecure and out of control. This means attackers are already in a weakened state. In order to get the “power fix” they desire, they must succeed at the attack. This inspires them look for someone who appears weaker than themselves.

Looking weak and being weak are two different things. You can be very confident but look weak simply by being distracted with a cell phone conversation. You can also have a terrible day but portray yourself as strong and confident just by adjusting your body language. Consider that whatever you are feeling on the inside is showing on the outside and attackers are quite good at reading body language.

Confident body language is very important to teach children. Pedophiles use it to select victims. We all need to know how to hold our heads up extra high when we are not feeling our strongest to counteract the normal slump that accompanies a challenging day.

Since attackers are insecure cowards looking to attack people weaker than they are, all of us need to look big, strong and confident. Here’s how:

Six Tips for Confident Body Language

Hold your head up – this makes you physically taller so that you look bigger, stronger and more confident. Keep your shoulders back – it is physically impossible to look weak when your shoulders are back. Look side to side as you walk – this makes you look aware of your surroundings. Swing your arms – this makes you bigger because you literally take up more space in front of and behind you. Walk with purpose – this makes you look strong and confident.. Be ready to yell, drop what you are carrying and run – material possessions are not worth risking your life for.

Now, you will be more conscious of other people’s body language and that of your own. If you are a woman with kids or teens, you will notice how much more confidently they come across after they develop confident body language into a habit. You will feel more confident about their safety and will have fun sharing these tips with other men and women!

By: Kelly Rudolph

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Women are often targeted by attackers because we make a few common mistakes about personal safety that present us as easy crime victim prospects.

We tend to be accommodating, to a fault We ignore our gut feelings Automatic trust is common with women

A few things to remember as we get into more detail about the common mistakes we make that put us in danger.

Attackers are insecure, have low self-esteem, feel out of control of their own lives and choose to control someone or something else in order to feel powerful again. Attackers look for those who appear weaker than they are (mentally, physically) to attack. Attacks may be verbal, mental, emotional or physical.
Too Accommodating

Women tend to be accommodating because we want people to like us and we enjoy being helpful. Although these traits are not bad they may allow us to be taken advantage of and pushed too far. This is where an attacker, known or unknown to you sees weakness and opportunity.

Solution: Establish and enforce personal boundaries. Know what distance you are willing to go and go no further. This will keep you from giving your power away to someone else.

Ignoring Gut Feelings

As women, we are generally much more in tune with our intuition or gut feelings than men are. However, we also tend to overlook, ignore and justify actions that are not in line with our gut feelings in order to be liked and to be nice.

Solution: Realize gut feelings are survival instincts you were born with. They will always lead you the right way. Follow them.

Automatic Trust

Because women have been raised to be nice and do good things for others, we often trust untrustworthy people automatically. We can all think back to a time we trusted someone and should not have.

Solution: Trust you gut feeling (intuition) without questioning or trying to justify it. It doesn’t have to be logical to be right. You will “feel” if someone is trustworthy or not. A good personal boundary to establish and enforce is, “If it feels wrong, avoid it.”

Although women may be targeted by attackers, these safety tips will help all of us avoid the personal safety mistakes that portray us as good victim prospects.

By: Kelly Rudolph

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Fabiola Castillo asked:


Have ever watched the TV show Star Trek and heard of the Romulan disruptor stun weapon? Have you ever thought about what it disrupts? Does it disrupt all the molecules in the person on the receiving end of the ray gun? What about a real stun gun? What does a real stun gun disrupt?

In this article, I will attempt to explain to you what a stun gun does disrupt on the scientific level.

The basic premise of a stun gun is to disrupt the communication superhighway between the brain and the peripheral nerves.

In general, stun guns put out a high-voltage, low amperage charge. Simply put, the stun gun exhibits a lot of punches but lack of power behind those punches. It is kind of like a 3-year-old kid punching the heck out of his daddy’s face but does not have enough force behind those punches to put his father in the hospital.

Upon depressing the stun gun’s trigger, the electric charge passes into the perpetrator’s body. Because it is high voltage (lots of punches), the electric charge will pass through thick clothing, fat under the skin, and subcutaneous soft tissue, particularly muscle. However, the low amperage (lack of power) does not have enough intensity to cause damage to the perpetrator’s body unless the charge is applied over a period of time.

The electric charge of a real stun gun “disrupts” or interrupts the attacker’s nervous system.

The following results could happen:



The charge of the stun gun can act synergistically with the electrical signals from the brain causing end tissue, such as a muscle, to contract continuously over short amount of time. The attacker will have a hard time telling is muscles to move in a different direction. This continuous contraction of the muscle will be hard to stop by the attacker due to the influx of an external charge provided by the stun gun. In laymen’s terms, if he wanted to cease contracting his muscles, he couldn’t because the charge provided by the stun gun is supplying the nerves that connect to his muscles.

The charge of the stun gun can exhibit a pulse frequency that imitates the body’s own electrical signals. In this method, the charge from the stun gun will tell the attacker’s muscles to do a ton of work, namely rapid repetitive contraction, in order to exhaust the attacker’s adenosine triphosphate (ATP) in his muscle cells. ATP is the energy currency of all cells in the body. It is the energy of ATP that causes muscles to contract. The lack of ATP in the attacker’s muscles will result in muscular weakness in the attacker. In other words, he will be too dazed and weak to get up after getting shocked.



The attacker has the same muscles and nerves throughout his entire body. Therefore, strategically placing the probes of the stun gun really does not matter in order to put down an attacker.

Note, however. Putting the probes of the stun gun in the attacker’s stomach will not only cause severe muscular contraction in his abdominal (skeletal) muscles, but also cause the smooth muscles making up the digestive tract and the urinary bladder to contract as well. Simply put, you can cause your attacker to defecate AND urinate in his pants by the time he kisses the concrete!! YOU would have been a bad choice for this street punk.

Adam Walls asked:


Everybody I am sure has watched Cops before and seen those videos of out-of-control “bad guys” and seen them get shocked or tased by either a stun gun or a taser. Or, for any 24 fans out there we all saw Jack shock President Logan in an attempt to subdue him and get him off of the helicopter. Well, the problem with most stun guns today is that although they are pretty small, you may want them just a little bit smaller. Maybe something just a little easier to carry around with you is all you would want.

Everyone has seen the Stun Master’s and what they look like. Stun Master Stun Guns have been around for over 10 years and they have provided us with some great, high quality stun guns but some people may not like the bulkiness. Although they are not all that big, some people may want a stun gun that is easily concealable and can fit virtually undetectable in the hand of a woman or a man. This allows your attacker to approach with no fear. The element of surprise is the key here. Your attacker will drop to his knees and will never see it coming.

The reason for this sudden surprise and drop comes from the technology that stun guns possess. The new smaller ones use new cutting edge micro-technology that allows it to deliver unprecedented power from a palm sized weapon. They are offered in three voltage levels so you can choose how much you need to use. I would recommend choosing the level based on your own size and how much more power you would need to subdue a man two or three times your size. Ultimately though, even with the lowest voltage it should be enough to give you some time to get away from an attacker. Any amount of voltage to a human being is not fun to take.

The best spot to aim the stun gun is right in the midsection. The reason for this is that you do not have to reach too high or too low. Unless you are abnormally short or the attacker is abnormally tall, the midsection around the stomach should be where you should aim. You should always try and stay away from the heart. Now, although something like that would be self defense you still do not want the burden of something fatal happening to somebody on your behalf. The stomach is a perfect area. It is very easy to access.

Now, as silly as this may sound, it is something that you may not think of. Know at all times which way is “up” on your stun gun. If you accidentally reach for an attacker with the bottom part of your stun gun nothing is going to happen except you will give your attacker a chance to take it from you and you will lost the precious “moment of surprise.” You would **** for your own self defense weapon to then be used against yourself and have your stuff taken too. That would be pretty humiliating.

Stun Guns can range from 80k volts all the way up to 950k volts. The smaller stun guns are perfect for all women or men of all sizes since they are easy to carry and easy to hide. This selection of voltage should be determined based on what kind of voltage you are looking for. And another neat little feature of the palm sized stun guns is that if you do not want to keep it in your purse or your pocket, it comes with a belt clip that you can wear and it will look like a pager. This will also allow for easier access. Nevertheless, no matter which type of stun gun you want to use, smaller or bigger, higher voltage or lower voltage, the amount of volts pulsing through a bad guys body will do enough damage to get you away from a bad situation.

I feel that this goes without saying, but please remember that stun guns are not toys and they should only be used as a means of self defense. Although they are non-lethal, if used wrong you never know what may happen. So, keep them for the bad guys. Also, please be sure to keep up on stun gun laws in your local jurisdiction, for websites may not have up to the second states, counties and countries that forbid the purchasing and owning of stun guns. In the end it is up to you the consumer to check into the law for your own self.